1 year ago…

It’s amazing that the things I worried most about for the wedding were the things I didn’t even notice on the day. The things I remember the most were the things that weren’t planned at all.
Like having a 5 guys burger with my best friend before everyone started arriving- and the look on my moms face an hour later when I told her.

How cute my nieces were.

The look on my moms face when she was reading the book I gave her that morning.

How much fun it was sitting around talking to my mom best friend and sister and then my college friend Emily.

Having to pee precisely 5 minutes after putting my dress on and the exasperated look my mother gave me when I told her I needed to pee about 2 minutes before the wedding started. Seriously I don’t think she had looked at me like that in 27 years- it was like we had just been stuck in traffic for hours and finally gone three miles on the open highway and I asked her to pull over. 

Getting butterflies of excitement in my stomach hearing the first few lines of sweet disposition knowing it was all starting…

Hearing my mom walk down the aisle and getting more applause than I did

Putting Gary’s ring on the wrong hand and then giggling at the jokes my uncle made during the ceremony that only we could hear.

Gary squeezing my hand as we walked back up the aisle- and literally squealing with delight seeing that my best friend from school was pregnant.

Having a moment in the car where I thought- “omg We just got married!”

Having tourists call out congratulations when we were getting our photos taken at the Lincoln memorial- and laughing at the kid who was grossed out by us kissing in front of the Washington monument. Our laughter was definitely caught on camera!

These Moments were what made the day so special. 

It was laughing and crying during the speeches- and actually being quiet for once and not making a speech. It was doing our first dance last and wearing flip flops all night because my beautiful custom made shoes killed my feet!

It was photo booths and glow sticks- lots of glow sticks. And everyone dancing to that silly song my mom made me promise that the DJ would play. And having a great time but not eating dessert but loving the cake!

It was kicking on at the bar after with all of our siblings and Irish and Aussie friends– and running into a girl I went to middle school with! 
It was staying up until 5am drinking champagne in our hotel suite, and then waking up the next day to do it all again.
It was going to the DC courthouse on Monday and waiting in a room with so many others waiting to make it official.

It was the little propeller plane that we took to San Pedro and Meeting family in Belize for The first time. It was swimming with stingrays and finding hidden Mayan cities. And sitting at the spit drinking Beliken beer and having lobster for three meals one day and drinking Belizean rum on the balcony in the afternoon. It was hopping on and off around LA and seeing robin Williams’ star covered in tributes. It was Santa Monica pier and seeing the white men can’t jump basketball court while you were wearing the white men can’t jump t shirt in Venice beach.

It was coming back to Sydney and celebrating all over again with our friends here. It was changing my drivers license and my passport. It was the first card we got addressed to mr and mrs. It was trying to figure out how to shorten my newly hyphenated name at my new job. 
It was a million other things in the last 365 days that made our wedding day so special and such a great day. I couldn’t have planned before all the details that make looking back on it so wonderful now. I can’t remember who sat where, I haven’t made the guest book or wedding album yet but I smile every time I think about it and every thing that’s happened in the past year.

Thanksgiving is coming!

Some of my earliest food memories revolve around Thanksgiving.  In fact, according to my parents Thanksgiving was the first time I really ate solid food—apparently one taste of turkey and I threw away the bottle.  The earliest thing I can nearly remember is being about 3 or 4 years old- maybe a bit older, but definitely pre-kindergarten, and bringing home a Waldorf Salad recipe from NCRC (pre-school) and either insisting on making it for Thanksgiving or possibly being encouraged by my extremely encouraging and indulgent family to make it.  Either way, it’s a testament to my family that (I think, according to family legend) they ate it or even contemplated eating it.  I was four years old. 

Waldorf Salad (see recipe below)  is pretty straightforward – unless you’re stubborn and four years old and not allowed to use a knife.  (My family was encouraging, not crazy).  Perhaps the memories are a bit hazy but the constants in the story’s retelling are that a, I didn’t want help and b, I wasn’t allowed to use a knife resulting in not so much sliced apples but apple chunks…. Huge apple chunks.    Legendary apple chunks that I’m sure if you ask my Uncles to this day, they will still laugh about.  Not the tastiest or easiest salad they’d ever had, but certainly made with love.

And that was just the beginning.  Family tradition is that my Mom always hosts Thanksgiving in Washington.   My Grandparents would arrive from St. Louis a few days ahead and help with the cooking, organising and everything else.  At some point in the preceding days, my Grandmother would re-organise the kitchen cabinets, which I’m not sure was always appreciated at the time.  She would also make turkey soup with the turkey leftovers which would sit unmolested and uneaten in the freezer until the week before next year’s Thanksgiving when my Mom would throw it out.   Over time, my mom experimented with varying levels of cooking- yes, we did have Thanksgiving catered more than once….. although much to my chagrin as a child, we never went out to eat and we never ordered Chinese on Thanksgiving Day.  Whilst lots of things would change from year to year, (I never made Waldorf Salad again), there were lots of traditions and rituals each year that somehow turned Thanksgiving into my favourite holiday. 

Every year there would be napkin ironing and folding (yes, my mother owns a book of napkin folding designs); unpacking and washing china- my mother’s wedding china (both sets) and after my Grandmother died, my great grandmother’s china; getting serving dishes and soup tureens from their packed away locations (some only came out for Thanksgiving); polishing silver; reading past issues of Food and Wine and Gourmet magazine for recipe inspiration- every year my mother makes a different soup; and a million other little preparations that made the holiday just so.   

Fast forward 20-odd years or so and Thanksgiving is still one of my favourite holidays.   Far more than Christmas, which is so fraught with anxiety and tension over gifts and religion and little Baby Jesus and Christmas Carols.   I’ve brought Thanksgiving to Australia and for the past few years – 5 or 6 years, I’ve hosted my own Thanksgiving here in Australia.  There’s no wedding china (it’s plastic plates instead), no folded napkins, and no silver to polish.  My Australian-American and now increasingly Irish Thanksgiving is a far more low key affair.   There are the occasional Turkey Hands, and sometimes we do go around and say what we’re thankful for, but really it’s just an excuse for me to cook and for everyone to come around and eat.  There are always a few people who have never been to a Thanksgiving before and who ask what it’s about. 

It’s pretty simple really, it’s about a group of people getting together to celebrate making it through another year and being grateful and giving thanks for the year that was.   It’s about people coming together, despite their differences or maybe because of their differences to eat, drink, and be merry!

 

****  Small disclaimer, whilst I LOVE Thanksgiving and the Thanksgiving story, generally speaking it didn’t work out so well for the Native Americans.  Generally speaking, I’m hoping that none of last year’s guests come back this year to steal land, spread disease, or in any other way wipe out the other guests.

 

 

Waldorf Salad Recipe

  • Prep time: 10 minutes

INGREDIENTS

  • 1/2 cup chopped, slightly toasted walnuts
  • 1/2 cup celery, thinly sliced
  • 1/2 cup red seedless grapes, sliced (or a 1/4 cup of raisins)
  • 1 sweet apple, cored and chopped
  • 3 Tbsp mayonnaise
  • 1 Tbsp fresh lemon juice
  • Salt
  • Pepper
  • Lettuce

METHOD

In a medium sized bowl, whisk together the mayonnaise (or yogurt) and the lemon juice. Add 1/2 teaspoon of salt, 1/4 teaspoon of fresh ground pepper. Mix in the apple, celery, grapes, and walnuts. Serve on a bed of fresh lettuce.

Yield: Serves 2.